Women.

Been considering for a long time, some people need people to depend on. Is it really that bad to work the unholy ways in the red light districts? Due to complications, forced in to such jobs. Is it really their fault to wear such skimpy clothes? When they wake up at about 4 in the afternoon, opening up their closets to their many branded goods, their shiny, luminous and attention-seeking garments.. When they put on their make up, making it extra thick to make them look exceptionally good... When it comes to accessorising, taking up the many blings given by past clients.

Is it really their fault?

Some are pretty pitiful, coming from broken homes who aren't earning enough to feed the table. Why do they get judged then? For being sexual workers. Getting labelled as "cheap", "despicable", "unworthy" and even "people who don't even have enough self-love". Why?

Why should we blame them when really, they are all still humans. They still have a basic desire of wanting to work and get the money. Do you really think that if they had the money, they would still work at these "despicable" red light districts? Would they still work this same "cheap" jobs, given the intelligence? Do you really think they don't have enough "self love"? Do you really think they want to be labelled as "unworthy"?

We are all still humans and that gives us no right to look down upon them. We all have our "lack of self-love", "unworthy","cheap, "despicable" moments. Why then, why blame them? When they still have this basic desire of feeling "worthy", just like you, and me?

Blame the men.

Blame the men who makes them feel loved. Blame the men who makes them feel "worthy", "not despicable", "not cheap". Blame the men who keeps their hopes high and gives them promises that they will come back soon. Blame them. Blame the men who spoils them and gives them all they want and all the jewellery, making them feel like if they continue working as such, they will get these beautiful diamonds and rubies and sapphires. Blame the men who gives them Chanel, MAC, Gucci, Prada.

Blame the men who frequents them.

Why do they get blamed for men who goes to them? Sure, the females may seem desperate and clingy and wanting to get the men and all. But in the end, who's paying? Who's the sluttish one in the end?

Who is at the receiving end? The men. They get the women, they get sex. What is a couple of hundreds to them?

Most of them even have wives waiting for them back at home, thinking they are at work. Or some, the wives already know. Yet they have nothing to say and/or do. Because most of them have families and kids which they really think it's not worth the separation for. Hoping they will stop their gallivanting ways.

That's the other kind of women who need help, the ones who are stuck and pressured with men whom they are lawfully wedded to. They'd love to separate. But due to complications, be it children, be it money. They can't. Or they don't want to.

Alcoholic. Abusive. Gamblers. Cheaters. Bitches.

Men who come back home drunk, lie down on couches and sleep till dawn. What do women do? We clean your vomit. We make sure you get a proper sleep. We unbutton your shirts to make you feel less hot. We put wet towels on your foreheads to cool yourself down. We make sure you feel comfortable. We put a blanket over you, in case you'd feel chilly at night. Then you guys just go in to a deep sleep, not even remembering the kindness of your wives.

Men whom have temperamental issues. What do women do? We get beaten up. We submit to you. We listen. We oblige. We understand. We bleed. We bruise. We can't do anything about it. We hope the children don't hear our cries and screams. We hope the children do not know anything. Then you guys just go to sleep, not caring about us.

Men who come back home after squandering all the money. What do women do? We scold you, definitely. But we also remind you to never gamble again. We are concerned. We hope you don't do it again. We try to understand. We help with the money and funds, just ask, and we would give. We help. Then you guys blame us, for being a nag.

Men who come back home with lipstick stains and perfume of another women lingering around. What do women do? We cry. We feel helpless about it. We get heartbroken. We would think you guys are unfaithful. We don't know what to do about the relationship. We think of ways to salvage the relationship. But we know we can't. We're just not of any more entertainment, not of any more fun. We coup ourselves up in rooms and cry. Secretly hoping you'd hear the cries and ask what's wrong. Yet at the same time, not knowing whether we should forgive. We try to sneak in to your phones to see if there's been any messages sent out that are of some clue. Then you guys accuse us, for intruding privacy.

Who is at the receiving end? Men.

Men drink, men sleep.
Men abuses, men ignorant.
Men gambles, men blames.
Men cheats, men accuses

I blame men. Stereotypical, I know.  Not all men are like that, but probably, the only reason why us women still put up with your nonsensical selves is because we love you. Or maybe, we love the kids.

I believe it is redundant that this is a patriarchal society. Women are the wilful, strong and independent ones. Society has obviously made a wrong judgement. This should rightfully be a matriarchal society. Where we count on ourselves and we don't need a man.

As the saying goes:

"Behind every successful men, is a woman,
Behind every successful women, is herself."

Who says women are the dependent ones? Men are the dependent ones.

Now tell me, am I the one being judgemental or is society judgemental? Saying that women are dependent, and men are independent. Really. Tell me. How does it work that way?